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  • Writer's pictureRebecca

Things I love about Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP)

Updated: Mar 2

Welcome, if you’ve been here before you’ll know that as an NLP Practitioner I offer NLP therapy online as well as being an NLP life coach, so I’ll skip the blurb and get right into it.


If you’ve ever wondered about the benefits of engaging with an NLP therapist or even what self-learning NLP can bring to your life, then, with my own personal twist, do read on.

Understanding the Mind

This has been at the centre of everything in my own journey with NLP and could be in your experience too. Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) delves into the intricate dynamics of the conscious and unconscious mind. It offers insights into how these aspects shape our thoughts, feelings, and behaviours.

By understanding the workings of the mind, you can gain greater control over your life and in essence, becomine your own NLP therapist.

NLP provides practical tools for deciphering the language of the mind, enabling us to communicate more effectively with ourselves and others.

Brain neurons firing

Change: In perception, in life and in yourself

This is probably an obvious one, but by understanding the mind better, it will inevitably engender change, and change for the better. Crucially (well, as a bonus), it doesn’t have to be just about understanding yourself to bring about positive change, but NLP therapy, or self-learning can enable you to better understand others too and thus adapt more easily, to bring about even more positive change not just in your own life, but your wider environment too.

Moreover, NLP does not overcomplicate matters or issues, but instead brings them into focus and allows your own strengths to come to the forefront.

Taking back control

So why NLP? For me it’s the simplicity that NLP offers and it affords me the luxury to be in better control of what happens to me, what actions I take and how I go about my day. This in turn has made me feel more empowered and able. Many may argue that wider factors control us (e.g. our life ‘situations’, our ‘environment’, relationships etc.) and this is true to some extent, but simply knowing you have your own things under control can have a vastly positive impact on your day to day happiness.

Under control - girl smelling flowers

Communication Mastery

You’ll hear that NLP is all about communication, and whilst this is true, the context is often misunderstood.

Effective communication is the cornerstone of success in both personal and professional life. NLP can equip you with a really versatile toolkit for bettering communication, across the board. For me, as an NLP therapist, techniques such as; mirroring, pacing, and leading, help me to establish rapport and influence others positively. For individuals and for you, mastering the art of communication can help foster deeper connections with others, resolve conflicts amicably and achieve your desired outcomes with ease. NLP can empower you to express yourself more authentically, feel less ‘lost’ and connect with others on a more profound level. Moreover, how you talk to yourself can also have a vastly positive impact on your own wellbeing.

Sentence Planning

Speaking of dialogue, sentence planning refers to both internal and external (outward) dialogue. For me, catching myself each time I say a word that is not helpful, I now stop and think how to deliver this to myself or to someone else in a way that makes more sense, does not place blame and adds a level of positivity. I used to have a habit of not thinking before I spoke so I like to practice stopping to plan a sentence several times a day. An example of some of the wording I have already re-programmed using NLP therapy are; can’t, shouldn’t, should, I wish and couldn’t. This may seem ‘silly’ or even a bit basic, yet NLP can take many avenues and this is one which can go as far as is needed. Often too, it’s smaller changes that can have the largest impact and this is as much true for me as it can be for you.


Another example of sentence planning is starting with the words “I feel”. On a personal level and playing the role of my own NLP therapist, by doing this I am owning what I am about to say without stating it as a fact nor placing blame onto someone else which are two important ways to open up more helpful and more connected ways to communicate.

People talking over a beautiful sunset and vista

Self-discovery and Empowerment

NLP can serve as a powerful catalyst for self-discovery and personal growth. By uncovering underlying beliefs, values, and motivations, you can gain valuable insights into your own psyche. This essentially begins to arm you with more awareness.

With this you can embark on a journey of self-improvement and empowerment. NLP techniques, such as timeline therapy and parts integration, facilitate inner transformation by resolving past traumas and overcoming limiting beliefs. You’ll find you eventually get to a place where you can harness the power of your subconscious mind, which is why many people seek the help of an NLP therapist as a form of mindset coach, but with a bit more effort, you can still work to unlock your full potential and start building towards the life you desire.

Silver Linings

And with reference to building a better life, silver linings are one of the things that I love the most that NLP therapy has helped me to see more of. Now knowing that NLP is an excellent catalyst for change, I’ve shifted my mindset to more of the I CAN attitude. I rather suddenly fell into a new way of perceiving and decoding everything. Silver linings came flooding into my life and have stayed with me since. I feel lighter, happier and I have a new zest for life that I just did not have before embarking on my own journey with NLP. There is no set path to follow, so your experience will be as unique to you as mine has been for me, but that is the beauty of NLP and your own silver linings await you.

Hands reaching for silver linings

Behavioural Transformation

This sits at the heart of personal development, and NLP offers a multitude of tools for enabling real transformation. By identifying and reframing limiting beliefs, you can break free from self-imposed barriers and instead adopt empowering new behaviours. A variety of NLP techniques, such as anchoring and swish patterns, help you to reprogramme your subconscious mind for success, in whatever it is you wish to tackle in this moment. This is how it’s been for me, helping with occasional procrastination, conquering fears and cultivating positive habits. NLP ultimately provides practical strategies for achieving meaningful change and realising your goals.

Bettering Relationships

Relationships (and this can be of any ‘type’) play a pivotal role in our overall well-being and happiness, and NLP offers valuable insights into fostering healthy connections. By honing our communication skills and developing empathy, we can strengthen our bonds with others and cultivate more fulfilling relationships. Again, it’s the variety of NLP techniques that come to the fore - things such as perceptual positions can help you to understand different perspectives and navigate conflicts much more constructively. Trust, authenticity, and mutual support are just a few of the benefits of NLP therapy, whether self-taught or otherwise.

Group hug on a hill overlooking a landscape - better relationships

Understanding personal values and desires

Sometimes we go about life for years or thinking we really know ourselves, makes sense, right? Well, one of the most eye-opening parts of NLP is to re-visit, revise and really start to think about these. Do they align with what your goals are? Are they the truth or are they what you would say to anyone else but not truthful to yourself?  What I love about this exercise is that it can really rather quickly help you to come to revelations and a level of understanding of your inner self that may have previously been out of reach, or simply undiscovered. Core values aligning with a few goals is an exercise I usually cover early in the first or second session – to build a foundation, but it’s something you can explore on your own too, although without an NLP therapist on hand, you’ll need to be very disciplined. Once you begin to learn how to incorporate your values (having re-assessed them) into everyday life it soon becomes second nature but is something you can revisit/re-do time and again should the need ever arise.


Now these are something that I absolutely love and do myself each day. Self-affirmations are a wonderful building block to practice at least once a day, but incantations take it further. When saying words out loud, doing so involves changing your physiology too. The aim is to intensify and bolden affirmations – essentially bringing them to life. They are not just words anymore, they are actions and they feel GOOD.

The words "believe in yourself painted on a wall with a child looking on

Practical application and freedom from unproductive habits

By now, I hope you’ll see that one of the most remarkable aspects of NLP is its sheer versatility and applicability to various aspects of everyday life. Whether it's improving performance at work, enhancing personal relationships, or achieving personal goals, NLP and indeed NLP online therapy teaches practical tools and techniques for success.


As for Habits...

We all have them, but we’re not always sure we either want to or know how to change them, often leaving us all feeling stuck. The change is not so daunting if there is a clear path to replace those habits with empowering behaviours or tweaks to your lifestyle. NLP therapy and NLP strategies are effective.

Why wait?

By incorporating NLP principles into your (new?) daily routines, you really can unleash your full potential and create a life of fulfilment.


I hope you’ve found this useful, if you’d like to book a free NLP consultation with me to find out how NLP can work for you then please go ahead, I’d love for you to get in touch. Otherwise, go here to learn more about NLP online therapy.


Rebecca x

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